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Single But Not “Single” (Part 2)
I believe you were blessed by part one of this post! (http://www.hersingledays.com/2018/12/27/single-but-not-single-part-1/) Today, let us begin by checking out what Paul tells us about singleness in 1 Corinthians 7:33-35 (MSG): “I want you to live as free of complications as possible. When you’re unmarried, you’re free to concentrate on simply pleasing the Master. Marriage involves you in all the nuts and bolts of domestic life and in wanting to please your spouse, leading to so many more demands on your attention. The time and energy that married people spend on caring for and nurturing each other, the unmarried can spend in becoming whole and holy instruments of God. I’m trying…
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Single But Not “Single” (Part 1)
Sometimes I wonder why singleness is always caged within the confines of marital status. The popular norm is, if you are single then it automatically means you are unmarried, “Bae-less” or “Boo-less”. This is not false but, in my opinion, it is limited and myopic. To decipher and critically analyse the word in a broader sense; to be “Single” means to be one, focused, whole, unique, exclusive, chosen, set-apart, distinguished or unmarried. For so many years, I dreaded being bae-less. The moment I was out of one relationship, I would quickly hop to the next. I never gave myself the time to take a break, to heal or reminisce. I…
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He Loves Me, He loves Me Not (Part 2)
Guess you were shocked or you probably had a good laugh while reading my chronicle in part one (http://www.hersingledays.com/2018/12/09/he-loves-me-he-loves-me-not-part-1/ ). That was me “a few years ago”! I am a living testimony of 2 Corinthians 5:17 (Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new) I still cannot believe today I can pass by a “fine Brother”, and probably acknowledge that he is wonderfully and fearfully made without assuming or guessing if he is or isn’t my Boaz. I was literally living my life for the “Boazes”. I made an idol of relationships and marriage. Presently,…
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Who is your Storyteller?
I grew up in an awesome and closely-knit family of 7. I am the third of 5 children. I have 2 sisters and 2 brothers. In my precautious mind as a child, being the middle born meant I was hidden or sometimes overlooked. It also meant that when there was an extra piece of ‘sweet’ (candy) it was either given to my elder or younger siblings and I was forgotten. I felt like I was not counted in for any special privileges. I had 2 elder siblings to respect and 2 younger siblings to take care of. Fitting in was so difficult for me! Amid my sisters, I felt like…
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Let God Drive your Sex Drive//Break the Silence! (Part 2)
I trust that the first part of this series blessed your heart! Today, I would be sharing a brief sneak peek into my testimony. Just like God has assured me, I believe it would help someone finally break loose from the shackles of sin, shame, secrecy and silence so that they can come out of hiding and receive love, healing, restoration and wholeness from our heavenly Father! I have been a single Christian for almost 30 years of my life. By God’s grace, it’s been an awesome journey thus far. I grew up as a Pastor’s kid in a very orthodox church. For obvious reasons, there were so many doctrines…
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Tough Trust (Part 2)
I believe you were blessed by the first part of this series (http://www.hersingledays.com/2018/12/09/tough-trust-part-1/ ). As you were reading those words in part 1, You may have even given up or you are thinking of throwing in the towel. But I urge you to hang in there. Let Faith begin to rise in your heart and soul! God says the plans He has for you are plans of good and peace to give you an expected end (Jeremiah 29:11) the waves may be big, but GOD is bigger! He has said He would take you to the other side; trust His word and His timing. Trust the process! Anyone who puts…
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How Shall this Be?
The year is pleasantly wrapping up. I can already feel and perceive the sweet aura of Christmas in the air! It is no surprise that this season always comes with an amazingly cool breeze of love and joy because it encapsulates and announces the birthday of our saviour, Jesus. However, amidst the jolly, we often have a certain proclivity towards reflection. Whether consciously or unconsciously, we reflect on the entire year and how much we were able to glean from it. Some people like me, even go back to their list of goals, prayers and expectations to take stock. Even though I am still yet to do that this year,…
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He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not (Part 1)
Have you ever been in a “relationship” where you were not exactly sure whether you were loved?? Have you ever unconsciously found yourself suspecting every man that comes around you is your ‘Boaz’?? My answer to this is YES!! However, regardless of your answers to these questions, I am writing this post series from my heart to yours. This is to encourage and remind you that even in the midst of the wait, we can rest securely and absolutely in the Father’s Love. A few years ago, I was in this “friendship” with a guy (we’ll call him Nick). Nick was a “good person” and a “good friend”. He was…
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Tough Trust (Part 1)
In 2010 pain and her retinue visited my cute happy family. Just when we thought our boat was sailing smoothly a sudden storm hit our tribe. My Daddy was diagnosed with a rare nervous system disease, Motor Neuron Disease; a condition that affects the nerve cells and leads to a progressive weakening and degeneration of all the muscles in the body, which eventually affects the ability to breathe. Things happened so fast, yet in slow motion. After a bit, we watched my super Daddy go from limping to being carried, and finally to being paralyzed and permanently bed ridden. He was put on a ventilator machine to supply oxygen directly…
