Relationship & Singleness
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Single But Not “Single” (Part 2)
I believe you were blessed by part one of this post! (http://www.hersingledays.com/2018/12/27/single-but-not-single-part-1/) Today, let us begin by checking out what Paul tells us about singleness in 1 Corinthians 7:33-35 (MSG): “I want you to live as free of complications as possible. When you’re unmarried, you’re free to concentrate on simply pleasing the Master. Marriage involves you in all the nuts and bolts of domestic life and in wanting to please your spouse, leading to so many more demands on your attention. The time and energy that married people spend on caring for and nurturing each other, the unmarried can spend in becoming whole and holy instruments of God. I’m trying…
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Single But Not “Single” (Part 1)
Sometimes I wonder why singleness is always caged within the confines of marital status. The popular norm is, if you are single then it automatically means you are unmarried, “Bae-less” or “Boo-less”. This is not false but, in my opinion, it is limited and myopic. To decipher and critically analyse the word in a broader sense; to be “Single” means to be one, focused, whole, unique, exclusive, chosen, set-apart, distinguished or unmarried. For so many years, I dreaded being bae-less. The moment I was out of one relationship, I would quickly hop to the next. I never gave myself the time to take a break, to heal or reminisce. I…
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He Loves Me, He loves Me Not (Part 2)
Guess you were shocked or you probably had a good laugh while reading my chronicle in part one (http://www.hersingledays.com/2018/12/09/he-loves-me-he-loves-me-not-part-1/ ). That was me “a few years ago”! I am a living testimony of 2 Corinthians 5:17 (Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new) I still cannot believe today I can pass by a “fine Brother”, and probably acknowledge that he is wonderfully and fearfully made without assuming or guessing if he is or isn’t my Boaz. I was literally living my life for the “Boazes”. I made an idol of relationships and marriage. Presently,…
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He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not (Part 1)
Have you ever been in a “relationship” where you were not exactly sure whether you were loved?? Have you ever unconsciously found yourself suspecting every man that comes around you is your ‘Boaz’?? My answer to this is YES!! However, regardless of your answers to these questions, I am writing this post series from my heart to yours. This is to encourage and remind you that even in the midst of the wait, we can rest securely and absolutely in the Father’s Love. A few years ago, I was in this “friendship” with a guy (we’ll call him Nick). Nick was a “good person” and a “good friend”. He was…
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Redefining DESPERATE (Part 2)
Desperate comes from a Latin word “desperare” which means “despair”. I was so stunned when I saw the definition in the Merriam-Webster Dictionary: According to it’s definition, desperate means: Having lost hope, giving no ground for hope, moved by despair or utter loss of hope, involving or employing extreme measures in an attempt to escape defeat or frustration, suffering extreme need or anxiety, involving extreme danger or possible disaster of extreme intensity. Wow! Too much negative emotions in just one word. You can then begin to imagine what a desperate person would look, sound or act like. The system of this world is filled with a lot of things to…
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Redefining DESPERATE (Part 1)
Have you ever wondered why single women are often tagged “desperate” while the single men are almost always let off the hook? This really boggles my mind! Is this true or it is just a stereotype? (I would love to know your opinion). I believe just like pain, desperation does not know or have a gender. However, viewing it from society’s lens, it seems like it wears a slim fit dress, high heel shoes, and lipstick. Whether male or female, it takes only God’s grace to live in this broken and wounded world without letting its spiky edges pierce your heart or drive you into a state of despair. I…
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My Quiet Time
I woke up this morning feeling very drowsy and tired. Guess it was because I went to bed quite late or maybe I am not just a morning person! As usual, it took me quite a while to peel myself out of bed. When I eventually realized I was awake and not in a dream, I got up and reached out for my phone to check the time. To my greatest surprise and joy, it was about 4:30am. I was so elated and pleased with myself. For about 4months now, the Holy Spirit has been prompting me to wake up earlier to spend some time with Him and in the…
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29 and Still Single
Is it just me or are there actually some “emotions” that come along with being twenty-nine and still single? It was my birthday this year and while the birthday wishes from friends and family were pouring in, I was privileged to spend a short time with my mother. All through our time together, my mother’s attention was divided between her laptop and me albeit, for one moment she looked up and asked in an unusual finely composed tone “Wait… How old did you say you are again?” Now I was certain there was a real problem because even if my mum could not remember my age at that moment, which…
